Wonderful to hear from you! Hope you are beginning to see the light.

Big hug.

Deb

Reading this was so profound for me. I am coming out of a very dark place emotionally, but allowing “the fear pass over and through”. Love to you and Maya and hope to see you soon.

Lee Moore

Thanks so much for sharing this!

I agree, fear is inevitable. The goal can’t be to eliminate it. Sometimes fear plays a necessary role and when it doesn’t, if we try to eliminate it we are only suppressing something that is going to raise its head somewhere else.

So. cliche as it sounds, we have to face and acknowledge our fears but not allow them to rule us.

Thanks Reiko,

Deb

My daughter, who is very considerate and sensitive, often does not voice her frustrations to other children because of fear, while she can be critical of others in her mind. Then she explodes one day (often only at home). My husband says he understands her very well, and he thinks it is fear that controls her action (not saying, then exploding, but still being afraid of hurting or annoying someone). He suggests her to think that it is ok to have fear. He says that she cannot simply get rid of it, and no one can say fear is the absolute bad thing because sometimes that is what makes people kind, considerate and modest. They discuss how they can learn to comfortably live with it or control it rather than being controlled by it. He says that knowing and accepting that he is a fearful type gives him some inner power and helps him to keep his calm, which then will improve his relationship with others in both mental and observable worlds. I have witnessed how he changed over the years (and so did our relationship, while I remained pretty much the same and spoke my mind bluntly!) -so the effectiveness of his method I must say is proven.

After the talk with her dad, my daughter felt empowered and emailed to a friend of hers who was haunting her for a while at the school. She showed it to me and it was pretty straightforward (to the extent that even I began worrying a bit). But she felt so good after voicing herself. A reply came shortly after, and to her (and my) surprise, through a few email exchanges, they led themselves to a peaceful reconciliation. None of the dreadful consequences that she was imagining happened. It is rather a small event and I am aware that fear creates much deeper and complicated cuts in people’s minds, especially when it is relationships among family members. But starting from an everyday little thing may be a helpful thing…

“let the fear pass over and through” is a profound phrase, indeed.

Thanks Deb for this inspiring posting and thanks people for your thoughtful comments. And thanks for reading this long comment!

Reiko

Fear is paralyzing, isn’t it?

Thanks,

Deb

thanks for the reminder,

ed

You’ve made me want to re-read Dune. I loved that series.

But seriously, that is a great quote. When we let fear rule over us, we destroy our potential, our happiness, and our true (and better) selves.

Thanks.

Deb

I agree – love is at the root of all good things.

As always, great to hear from you.

Deb

peace, love and hair grease

Deborah this quote has all was spoken to me it speaks to the self destruction of fear and the multiple deaths it causes in the form of seperation, hurt