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Why is it so Hard to Take a Vacation?
In the January 2009 meeting of my monthly Executive Director’s Roundtable for Women, we talked about the work-related benefits of taking a vacation. Most of the participants had just come back from having taken time off work over the holidays. They came back feeling fresh, focused, and re-energized. They saw a noticeable difference in their capacity to think clearly, Read more
The Shoe Makers Children Go Without Shoes
Many of the clients I work with are from nonprofit organizations – people in some form of helping/service profession. One of the themes that run through the work I do with individual coaching clients or when working in groups is: helpers give to others without taking adequate care of themselves.
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We Need to See the Connections
So often, we fail to see the connections in our life. In some cases, this can be life threatening. In the New York Times Magazine article, Perplexing Pain, Lisa Sanders writes about a woman who suffered for years from attacks of abdominal pain, rapid heart rate, fever, and a variety of other symptoms. Despite seeing numerous doctors and even undergoing numerous surgeries, she Read more
Mindless vs. Mindful
Why are we so attracted to being mindless? Today’s technology has made it easier and easier for us to remain completely mindless. Walking down the street on the way to the subway station. Why allow my mind to have some quiet time to reflect when I can send an email or make a quick phone call? Sitting in a waiting room waiting for a doctor or a client meeting. Why allow my Read more
ABC’s Not So Easy
Contrary to the Jackson Five song that states, “it’s as easy as ABC,” I’m not sure ABC is so easy after all. One of the ways I analyze individuals, groups and organizations in my change catalyst work is through my ABCD™ Model. In this Model, A=Alignment and Balance, B= Boundaries and Connections, C=Clarity, and D=Discernment. So, for example, with a coaching client, I help them examine whether they are living in alignment with their life purpose. A life purpose is what gives meaning to your life. When you know Read more
One Day My Heart Just Opened Up
One Day My Soul Just Opened Up is the title of a fabulous book by Iyanla Vanzant that takes the reader through a 40-day process of spiritual and personal growth. I had an experience recently that gave me an understanding of how Iyanla must have felt when she came up with the title of that book. Read more
Finding Balance: The Great Challenge
In my ongoing Learning and Support Group for executive directors of NYC nonprofit organizations (in conjunction with the Nonprofit Coordinating Committee of New York), a recurring topic is finding and maintaining balance.
One of the reasons these organizational leaders continue to come to these group meetings is because they have come to understand that maintaining balance outside is dependent on being centered inside. Read more
Balance, Alignment, and Support
Table of contents for Change, Transition and Transformation
Part 9 in the Change, Transition, and Transformation Series
As James Baldwin stated:
“Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety.” As we undergo change, even desired change, we do temporarily lose ourselves – we lose the identity that we knew and that was familiar to us. As a result, we end up feeling unsafe, uncertain, and off balance.
As is clear from my earlier posts, being able to move through change and transition and successfully come out transformed on the other side is about balance and alignment. Read more
Everything’s Connected
Table of contents for Change, Transition and Transformation
Part 7 in the Change, Transition, and Transformation Series
When my neck was in pain, I knew that my muscles had tightened up and locked into place. According to Dr. Lou, my chiropractor, the massage had not been effective because my muscles were not the source of misalignment. Rather, the muscles had tightened up in response to the misalignment of my vertebrae.
I continued to see Dr. Lou so he could make adjustments to realign my spine. But, in between visits, my back would become misaligned again and the pain would return. Interestingly, the muscles were so used to being in a tightened, resistance mode, they would fall back into the familiar role by force of habit, pulling my spine out of alignment in the process. The muscles, rather than supporting the adjustments, were working against them.
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Take the Time for a Moment of Reflection
In various spiritual practices, the world as we experience it with our senses is considered an illusion. It is not reality. Reality is the internal place at the core of our being – the place our inner wisdom, inner calm and sense of well being reside; the place that contains the essence of our energetic life force. Even though I believe this to be true, it’s still so easy to forget the power of what lies within and get caught up in the external world.
How often do you strive to do things in the outer world to bring you happiness, Read more
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