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Everything’s Connected
Table of contents for Change, Transition and Transformation
Part 7 in the Change, Transition, and Transformation Series
When my neck was in pain, I knew that my muscles had tightened up and locked into place. According to Dr. Lou, my chiropractor, the massage had not been effective because my muscles were not the source of misalignment. Rather, the muscles had tightened up in response to the misalignment of my vertebrae.
I continued to see Dr. Lou so he could make adjustments to realign my spine. But, in between visits, my back would become misaligned again and the pain would return. Interestingly, the muscles were so used to being in a tightened, resistance mode, they would fall back into the familiar role by force of habit, pulling my spine out of alignment in the process. The muscles, rather than supporting the adjustments, were working against them.
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Balance, Alignment, and Support
Table of contents for Change, Transition and Transformation
Part 9 in the Change, Transition, and Transformation Series
As James Baldwin stated:
“Any real change implies the breakup of the world as one has always known it, the loss of all that gave one an identity, the end of safety.” As we undergo change, even desired change, we do temporarily lose ourselves – we lose the identity that we knew and that was familiar to us. As a result, we end up feeling unsafe, uncertain, and off balance.
As is clear from my earlier posts, being able to move through change and transition and successfully come out transformed on the other side is about balance and alignment. Read more
Change, Transition, and Transformation for Executive Directors
Over the last few months, I have been facilitating a monthly Learning and Support Group for executive directors of New York City nonprofit organizations with the support of the Nonprofit Coordinating Committee of New York.
I developed this series after having conducted a few roundtable discussion meetings with these organizational leaders. What became apparent during these discussions was their difficulty finding time to step back and reflect on their work, their roles, their visions for their organizations and their professional and personal development that is crucial to their ongoing success and effectiveness. Read more
Stories About Ourselves and Stories About Others
I had an experience recently in a long-term learning group that I was in. All the participants had made a commitment to attend six 3-day sessions over an 18-month period of time.
Finding Balance: The Great Challenge
In my ongoing Learning and Support Group for executive directors of NYC nonprofit organizations (in conjunction with the Nonprofit Coordinating Committee of New York), a recurring topic is finding and maintaining balance.
One of the reasons these organizational leaders continue to come to these group meetings is because they have come to understand that maintaining balance outside is dependent on being centered inside. Read more
Seeing and Being Seen
One of the most basic of human desires is the desire to feel “seen.” We want to be seen for who we are – and have the unique gifts that we bring to the world appreciated and valued.
An incident that took place with my daughter about a year ago helped me realize how easy it is not to “see” and appreciate those around us – even those who are nearest and dearest to us. My daughter is eleven years old now but was ten at the time of the incident I’m writing about. Read more
Why The Ocean is a Spiritual Place
I have always been drawn to beaches. Read more
“Growing Young”
In Japan, when a person turns 60 years old, it is believed that they then begin their second childhood. This is because they are old enough to have been around the Chinese zodiac calendar with its 12 animal years (rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, Read more
The See Saw: A Metaphor for Yin and Yang
Last week I participated in a fabulous writing workshop. After four days of constant writing, I found myself feeling a strong sense of nervous energy – kind of the way it feels when you’ve drunk too much coffee. Since I hadn’t had much coffee and wasn’t feeling nervous or Read more
Take Time to Dance
A friend of mine sent me a link to a wonderful video. Watching it just made me smile and realize how important it is for us to remember to dance. Read more